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Important Safety Tips From IYS
***Important Note***: We do not perform background checks on our members. We are in the process however of finding the best solution to do this.
Scammers
NEVER share your personal or financial information with people you don’t know. No matter how comfortable you are with the person you are speaking with online. Below are a few guidelines to use when interacting with potential mates (new or old):
Do not voice your suspicion to the person you are leery about, report any suspicious activity or behavior to us immediately.
Tips for dating on & offline
Approach meeting someone for the first time with absolute caution, keep in mind you are in control of your safety at all times-do not share anything personal until you feel comfortable. Always follow your instinct, if you feel uncomfortable do not make excuses as to why you may be feeling this way, cease contact immediately and notify us. Just because you can’t exactly put a finger on what makes you uncomfortable does not mean your feelings are not real.
Guard your identity.
Do not post personal contact information on your profile, that includes phone number, email address, home address, or where you work. Share this information only when you feel you have establish trust with that individual.
Know who the person is BEFORE meeting face-to-face. Be in constant communication with this person; ask all the questions you believe need answering before arranging a face-to-face meeting. If you would like more information about someone, use Google and all government resources available to the public. Below are safety measures to follow when meeting anyone:
●Long Distance Meeting
Stay in a hotel by yourself and keep the location confidential.
Use a taxi or rental car to get to and from the airport, even if your potential interest volunteers to pick you up.
Remember to keep your family and friends posted and give them an estimated time of your return to the hotel. Inform a hotel staff; have them call your room at an appointed time. Again give all parties a picture of your date, their name, and your meeting location.
Have a plan as to what you’ll be doing when you meet up; do not veer off schedule
If the person you’re meeting acts offended or impatient about the above leave immediately and report them to us
Block abusive users.
You have the option to block anyone who comes off as too aggressive, condescending, or abusive. If you find someone abusing/violating their usage please contact us immediately. Below are examples of violation:
Members who are married or already in a committed relationship using the service
Members sending harassing, threatening, or offensive emails/IMs
Members asking you for money or donations
Members behaving inappropriately after meeting in person
Fake profiles (multiple names or constantly changing their names)
Spam or solicitation, attempts to sell products or services
Why don't you ask more questions on the profile - like what is your favorite vacation spot
Our goal is to design a profile that would allow you to tell your potential mate something about yourself while avoiding superficial questions that too often litter other dating sites. In our view we omit things that people tend to exaggerate about, such as salary, owning a home, etc.. We want your profiles to focus the make up of your character, things that really delve into who you are.
Is IYS right for me?
IYS is not for everyone. This site is only for those who are truly seeking to make a life altering connection. If you wan to connect with like minded people then this is the place to be playful and creative. If this is you....WELCOME!
What do you do to make the site safe and private?
We ask that all meeting take place in public places.
We users for their participation by having them flag suspicious date profiles and inappropriate messages so that we can deal with them personally. This includes harassing or offensive messages, proposals of non-public or sexual dates, inappropriate photos, or anything else that violates our Terms of Use. Once of the reason we charge a small fee to usage of this site is so we can have a credit card on file, which allows us to give the violator a true identity so they can be properly dealt with We try to create a general tone of safety, authenticity, and positivism. We delete or disable suspicious accounts.
Tell me about privacy. Who can see me on IYS
By default, your profile information is public and indexable by Internet search engines. You can make your profile private, only viewable by users logged into IYS, by changing the appropriate setting in your Settings page.
Do you have any other photo guidelines?
Your photo is your calling card, we are creatures of superficiality. The truth is no one would be interested in a poor quality photo, so we require that your main photo is a high quality head shot. The more friendly and approachable you appear the better your chances of enticing potential suitors.
Why do you charge at all? I mean, c’mon, OkCupid is free!
Above all, we believe that when something is free it attracts the unattractive. By charging we are weeding out individuals who aren't serious about such a sensitive and personal activity. When users are paying, they are more committed to really using the site and are serious about dating. Making IYS a pay service discourages sketchy folks from joining and because we think that the site is offering something of real value - an innovative way for people to meet and change their lives in a dramatic and exciting way.
***Important Note***: We do not perform background checks on our members. We are in the process however of finding the best solution to do this.
Scammers
NEVER share your personal or financial information with people you don’t know. No matter how comfortable you are with the person you are speaking with online. Below are a few guidelines to use when interacting with potential mates (new or old):
- - Don’t send money to anyone you’ve met online, whether through check, cash, credit card, or wire transfer. Do not believe that because you give money through check it is easier to find this person-true. But they now have your account number and can do a lot more damage.
- - Do not share your phone number, SSN, or address. All communication should take place within our communication system.
- - They claim it is an emergency and need help immediately
- - They ask you to keep it a secret (because they are SO embarrass)
- - Anyone who constantly changes their profile name
- - Anyone who claims to be in love with you after a few IMs
- - A wonderer, claims their job take them all over the world so they don’t have a stable living arrangement
Do not voice your suspicion to the person you are leery about, report any suspicious activity or behavior to us immediately.
Tips for dating on & offline
Approach meeting someone for the first time with absolute caution, keep in mind you are in control of your safety at all times-do not share anything personal until you feel comfortable. Always follow your instinct, if you feel uncomfortable do not make excuses as to why you may be feeling this way, cease contact immediately and notify us. Just because you can’t exactly put a finger on what makes you uncomfortable does not mean your feelings are not real.
Guard your identity.
Do not post personal contact information on your profile, that includes phone number, email address, home address, or where you work. Share this information only when you feel you have establish trust with that individual.
Know who the person is BEFORE meeting face-to-face. Be in constant communication with this person; ask all the questions you believe need answering before arranging a face-to-face meeting. If you would like more information about someone, use Google and all government resources available to the public. Below are safety measures to follow when meeting anyone:
- - Always meet in a public place that is populated; never in a secluded or remote location
- - Tell a friend or family member where you are going (name of location, a picture of the person, and their name). Inform them about what time you expect to be home and have them call you at that appointed time (keep your cellphone on you)
- - Stay sober and keep an eye on anything you will ingest. Do not participate in anything that would impair your judgment or causes you to lose your coherency
- - Drive yourself to and from your meeting
- - Don’t leave personal items unattended, keep all personal information on you(pocket, pantyhose)
- - Never go back to your date’s home or bring them back to yours on the first date. If your date pressures you, end the date, leave at once, and report them to us
●Long Distance Meeting
Stay in a hotel by yourself and keep the location confidential.
Use a taxi or rental car to get to and from the airport, even if your potential interest volunteers to pick you up.
Remember to keep your family and friends posted and give them an estimated time of your return to the hotel. Inform a hotel staff; have them call your room at an appointed time. Again give all parties a picture of your date, their name, and your meeting location.
Have a plan as to what you’ll be doing when you meet up; do not veer off schedule
If the person you’re meeting acts offended or impatient about the above leave immediately and report them to us
Block abusive users.
You have the option to block anyone who comes off as too aggressive, condescending, or abusive. If you find someone abusing/violating their usage please contact us immediately. Below are examples of violation:
Members who are married or already in a committed relationship using the service
Members sending harassing, threatening, or offensive emails/IMs
Members asking you for money or donations
Members behaving inappropriately after meeting in person
Fake profiles (multiple names or constantly changing their names)
Spam or solicitation, attempts to sell products or services
Why don't you ask more questions on the profile - like what is your favorite vacation spot
Our goal is to design a profile that would allow you to tell your potential mate something about yourself while avoiding superficial questions that too often litter other dating sites. In our view we omit things that people tend to exaggerate about, such as salary, owning a home, etc.. We want your profiles to focus the make up of your character, things that really delve into who you are.
Is IYS right for me?
IYS is not for everyone. This site is only for those who are truly seeking to make a life altering connection. If you wan to connect with like minded people then this is the place to be playful and creative. If this is you....WELCOME!
What do you do to make the site safe and private?
We ask that all meeting take place in public places.
We users for their participation by having them flag suspicious date profiles and inappropriate messages so that we can deal with them personally. This includes harassing or offensive messages, proposals of non-public or sexual dates, inappropriate photos, or anything else that violates our Terms of Use. Once of the reason we charge a small fee to usage of this site is so we can have a credit card on file, which allows us to give the violator a true identity so they can be properly dealt with We try to create a general tone of safety, authenticity, and positivism. We delete or disable suspicious accounts.
Tell me about privacy. Who can see me on IYS
By default, your profile information is public and indexable by Internet search engines. You can make your profile private, only viewable by users logged into IYS, by changing the appropriate setting in your Settings page.
Do you have any other photo guidelines?
Your photo is your calling card, we are creatures of superficiality. The truth is no one would be interested in a poor quality photo, so we require that your main photo is a high quality head shot. The more friendly and approachable you appear the better your chances of enticing potential suitors.
Why do you charge at all? I mean, c’mon, OkCupid is free!
Above all, we believe that when something is free it attracts the unattractive. By charging we are weeding out individuals who aren't serious about such a sensitive and personal activity. When users are paying, they are more committed to really using the site and are serious about dating. Making IYS a pay service discourages sketchy folks from joining and because we think that the site is offering something of real value - an innovative way for people to meet and change their lives in a dramatic and exciting way.
